I Don’t Know is Ok (right now)

By Kristin Allaben

At The Forte Factor, we talk a lot about the importance of knowing who you are to discover, develop and leverage your natural strengths, talents and passions to be able to align what you love to do with your world. This alignment can lead to greater happiness, greater fulfillment and a greater life.

It all starts when you see the importance and make the time to intentionally tune in to you and your world. This is how you find your fit.

But what if your best fit doesn’t make sense for you right now? What if your fit requires a time or financial investment you just don’t have? What if it requires a big change your family can’t support right now?

You can learn everything about yourself from the inside and out, recognizing your talents, passions and natural abilities, but that is only part of tuning in to you. You must also understand and recognize what is an idea vs. what is acceptable, especially if you are part of something larger, like a family, a relationship or previous commitment right now. That is a crucial component. You need to be able to accept what could be, and what is. What has to work now, and what is possible for the future.

I strongly believe this is part of understanding who you are because greater knowledge of your strengths and passions should be paired with the knowledge of context, especially of what limitations may exist. This isn’t to say the perfect fit for you will never be, it just means that it might not be right now.

To clarify, I’m not giving you a pass. This is by no means an excuse to just accept what is and wait for something better to come along. Saying I don’t know right now, or I can’t right now is truly being tuned in to your world. It is being realistic. Sometimes not knowing or not being able to make a change is the best it can be at the moment. How can you see this, accept it and still stay focused on better fit things that could be part of your future?

As you’re learning more about yourself, as you’re tuning in and listening to you and your world, remember to also listen to your inner voice, listen to what is, listen to what is true. Then tune in to the world to be fully present to what is going on. With this awareness, ask yourself what else could happen in the next moment to bring you closer to what fits you.

Sometimes not knowing what to do is just a way that shares with you that more information is needed. Use that message to dig deeper into your understanding of yourself and your world. Perhaps a different focus or different direction would suit you better.

Take Action

If you had the opportunity to take a big step toward better alignment with your passions and strengths in today’s world, would you do it? What would give you pause? What needs to happen to make your perfect fit your reality? What does the “right now” look like for you to say I know?

 

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