We hear it over and over – life is hard. Life has some hard spots. True. But most days, there is more right than wrong, good than bad, amazing than average, building than diminishing, possible than impossible, wonder than sameness. But in a world where the bad is seemingly magnified, it requires a mindset shift to see the positive more than the negative.
Here’s the truth: life is about perspective. We have been trained to focus on the challenges and dangers in our world. We are trained to tune in to things that can harm us, hurt us and create problems. There’s little wonder that, with this perspective, most everything we notice is a problem we are just finishing, just starting or one that is on our future. Most people live life like they’re moving from problem to problem to problem. Who wouldn’t get worn out, angry and bitter with that view?
The consequence of this negative perspective is self-perpetuating. The more you notice problems and get yourself down because of them, the more problems you notice – and on it goes. You spin faster and faster making it more difficult to notice any of the amazing, wonderful, awesome and spectacular things that go on every day, right in front of you, able to make you see that you have a great life.
So how do you learn to see the bright side and not always focus on the dark side? Tune out, tune in and readjust your view.
With the magnitude of negative news and fear-based reporting in our world, it is important to disconnect from this input to allow yourself to consider the positive, not just the negative. If you receive a constant feed of negative, it will become the lead influence in your thinking. You will spend your time being pessimistic, and here is what is alarming: you will justify that you are right to be so negative.
You need to disconnect from the continual negativity to be able to see and develop the positive.
Tune in means pay attention to what is good, right and working well about you and your world. What are your greatest abilities that help you excel? What are you passionate about and interested in that helps you feel engaged, activated and happy in your day? What in your world or workplace is working well?
If you don’t look for it, you will not find it. But as soon as you learn to tune in to what is great in you and in your world and workplace, you will see that there is always more right than wrong, more beauty, greatness and goodness than the other side. It takes new eyes to see it.
Readjust Your View
FUD – fear, uncertainty, death. Drama and difficulties. This is the stuff that seemingly sells best. But when you shift from fear to love, and from worry to happiness, you take control as the owner of your life. Making an intentional mindset shift to adjust your view, combined with tuning out the noise and tuning in to yourself, lessens the impact on you. You are a victim to this until you choose not to be.
Consider all of the metaphors here – you drive, you paint your canvas, you run your race, you build your dream. From a more positive, energized and engaged perspective, the results in each of these situations will be remarkably better. Seeing it is the first step.
Develop a practice to tune out with regularity to be able to tune in to see things clearly, to then readjust your view. Start each day with a focus on gratitude in the silence of the moment. Allow that silence to create a clearer view of you and your world, and how you want to see yourself doing work and life. Happy is a choice. It can be yours, but you have to want it and be willing to work to achieve it.
By Jay Forte
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