The Year to Get Clear: What do People Applaud Me For?

This week, our Get Clear question is: for the you here today, what do people applaud you for?

This is an important question to ask yourself for two reasons. First, to gain greater awareness of your strengths so you can use them more intentionally in your days. And second, to gain awareness of the strengths others see in you that you may not be aware of.

In our work with thousands of people and hundreds of companies, we can tell you that a seemingly universal truth is that everyone can identify what they think is wrong with them vs. what is right. Nearly everyone can easily list their faults and weaknesses, mostly because the world is quick to point them out. You’re too talkative, too direct, too confrontational… the list is endless.

This is why this question is so important. The goal is to help you start to discover, see and understand what others see as great in you, what they applaud you for.

Once you hear from those who know you well, stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what about you is remarkable. Don’t hold back. Don’t play small. Notice everything others positively comment on and applaud. Start a list. Keep adding to the list as you identify more things to help you balance what you know of yourself so you can see what greatness others see in you.

Take Action
Ask yourself your Get Clear question of the week again: What do people applaud you for?

As you identify any new strength or ability this activity helps you discover, add it to your expanding understanding of yourself. Spend a minute understanding what others applaud you for so you can get acquainted with it and start to build on it. Mindfulness expert Jon Kabat-Zinn stated, “There is more right with you than wrong with you no matter what you think is wrong with you.”

Get clear. Be the real you. This is the key to a great life.

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By The Forte Factor Team

Consider reading How to Help Your People Improve

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How to Be Happy in Today’s Crazy World

We’ve had it with the negative news, political fighting and fear mongering that fills the airwaves. Our nerves are shot. We can’t sleep. We’re anxious and worried. Does this sound like you?

Sometimes, the world seems to be spinning out of control. Sometimes, life seems tough.

But life is not out to get you.

The world has so much to offer when you look past the fear-mongering and 24-hour news cycles filled with upsetting content. Learning how to see the good among the tough and challenging takes practice and guidance. That’s why we’re here.

Our goal at The Forte Factor is to guide you to develop, discover and live your strengths to be happy in your world – no matter what the world sends. That’s how genuinely happy people set themselves apart from the rest. They know that even though they can’t change the world, they can change how they respond to it and exist in it. Same world, different you. 

So, how can you be happy in today’s crazy world when you’re seemingly surrounded by nothing but negativity? Develop a different response. We’ll show you how.

On Wednesday, March 20 (12:30pmET) – and again on Tuesday, March 27 (7:30pmET) – we’re hosting a one-hour webinar, “How to Be Happy in Today’s Crazy World,” to offer some easy-to-implement tips for you to learn how to be happy and calm in today’s wild world.

Join us to be introduced to how to better understand your world, understand yourself and learn some very specific tips in how to choose a better, happier and saner response.

Sign up now to reserve your spot:

Be Someone’s Hero

We have an obsession with heroes. The Marvel and DC series have brought comic book super heroes to life. And we hear stories about super heroes in daily life, usually in the form of first responders. Verizon highlighted first responders as heroes during their “Answer the Call” campaign (it’s hard not to get choked up listening to that) and during the 2019 Super Bowl, they ran a “The Team That Wouldn’t Be Here” campaign highlighting 12 NFL players that wouldn’t be here without first responders.

Whether it’s one person saving or helping another or a band of superheroes saving the world together, a hero ultimately comes down to the same definition: people who do or achieve amazing things.

We are eager to acknowledge and praise heroes. We give them trophies, medals and awards. We write about them, follow them, interview them and post their pictures everywhere.

Sometimes, however, our definition of hero leads us to forget about those who live among us. The talented, quiet and decisive people who show up each day, committed to being their best, doing their best and bringing their best to their world. They are our parents, partners, friends or employers. They are our kids, cousins or the employees at a store. They don’t do what they do for applause or fame; they do it because they have a personal standard of excellence that compels them to be great and to connect their greatness with their world.

We each have the opportunity to be a hero in today’s world by understanding who we are, knowing what we do best, and finding a way to share these talents and strengths with the world.

Here are some of my heroes:

  • My father, whose big heart always watched for those in need and was the first to find a way to help. Be it family or stranger, neighbor or employee, he was the first to raise his hand, volunteer or just show up in a way that made a difference.
  • The extremely successful CEO who took me under his wing early in my career to share not only his business wisdom, but also his broad understanding of life, how to be successful and how to balance a demanding career with a demanding household. His commitment to showing up as your best self is a lesson I still remember.
  • My partner, who brings a personal excellence to all he does, never swayed by what others say. He models confidence, courage and determination – always.
  • The employee at Panera who not only took exceptional care with my order and food allergies, but gave the same level of care to everyone in line. Entry-level job, hero attitude.

How do you become a hero? Here are my thoughts:

1. Always be your best self.
You choose how you show up to every event in life. Know what you are good at and passionate about and find ways to connect these to your world. Make greatness your personal standard. Inspire others to do and be their best

2. Be there for others, honestly, and without expectation.
Heroes care about people – they care about others. Here are the four most powerful 4-word phrases we can say to another

“I am really sorry.”

“I really love you.”

“How can I help?”

“Tell me about it.”

Say things and mean them. Ask questions and listen to the answers. Care about where people are and what is going on in their lives. Really be interested, connected and supportive. There is an element of the divine in all of us – and heroes treat others as the amazing person they were born to be, even when others’ actions don’t warrant it.

3. Add value to everything you touch.
Heroes watch for ways to show up, step up and stand out in life. They are always searching for ways to add value and to make whatever they encounter better. They add value not for the praise, but because doing the amazing is how they appreciate this great thing called life.

Take Action
Recognize the true heroes among us. Learn from them and try to become one by bringing your best, being there for others and adding value to everything you touch. See the impact living like a hero can make in your life and in our world.

By Jay Forte

Consider reading Being Uniquely You

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Original article by Jay appeared on Intent on April 2, 2013

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