What If You Had No Limits?

By Jay Forte

Imagine living in a world where you can be anything you want to be. You have all the resources you need to achieve this. You have all the support you need to reach your goals.

With nothing holding you back, what would you choose?

Most of us don’t know because we struggle to imagine having no limits. Why? Because we are faced with an endless list of limitations every day, from ability to time, to resources, to support. That, coupled with the fact that our world is quick to remind us that life is filled with limitations, often results in choosing to be practical and play things safe.

But just imagine what you could do when those limitations are acknowledged as hurdles and not road blocks. 

See, when you acknowledge a limit and work with it, you can start to have better control over your capabilities. You can allow yourself to invent, create and imagine all that is meaningful and valuable in you because you push yourself to the edges and consider things that may have otherwise been ignored. You start to say what matters to you. You move past playing small.

If you don’t dream it, you can’t achieve it.

Our greatest lives are those that have moved us past our comfort zones, past what we think we can achieve, and introduced us to abilities and strengths we never knew we had. When we are afraid to try, afraid to push our limits, we prevent ourselves from discovering how amazing we are and what those amazing abilities can help us achieve. Our lack of self-awareness keeps us focused on our limits and playing small.

To push to your edges and challenge your limits, start asking questions like, “What if…” and “How about…”

For example:

  • What if I went back to college and pursued a degree in something I am passionate about?
  • What if I took the job I want to take instead of staying local where my family and friends are?
  • What if I applied for the role in the company others say is too big for me, but I totally can see myself in it?
  • Let’s imagine that we wrap this project and beat the deadline by a full week – what would that look like?
  • How about redefining this role in the company to include a remote or gig employee?
  • How about living in another country for a year?

We build limits to keep ourselves safe, but overtime, the limits we set for ourselves are often the very ones that box us in, making life and work smaller and less fulfilling. As a result, we can only truly live a fraction of our potential.

So, be self-aware. Go for the greatest image, vision or opportunity possible. Imagine, invent and create. You can scale things back if you need to, but give it a try first.

What could you create if you had no limits?

Important Questions from a Coach:

  1. In what areas in work and life do you impose limits?
  2. What is one dream, wish or adventure you want for yourself?
  3. What is one thing you will do today to start to move the edges of your limits to allow yourself a larger view?

 

Consider reading Find Your Voice. Be The Change.

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Write a Better Story

By Jay Forte

As a kid, and even into my teens, I had a terrible lisp. When I discovered it, I was afraid to say anything. I think I spoke about 10 words throughout my first two years of high school, too embarrassed about my speech impediment.

Be embarrassed. Be afraid. That was my modus operandi.

The amazing thing about how we see things is that we can always marshal the evidence to support whatever view we have. As a teen, I marshalled the evidence that people with speech impediments should not speak, should not participate and should just stay home. The inner critical voice in my head reinforced this as the way to make it through high school.

However, a speech therapist worked with me to help me learn how to better pronounce the sounds that were holding me back. Through a very long year, my mastery of the “s” sound came along. With it, my story changed. I now didn’t need to be afraid to share my thoughts, to bring ideas forward, to invent, teach and do the things I wanted to do.

I let my situation dictate my story instead of changing my story to fit the situation I wanted.

Here’s your lesson: YOU are the author of your story. And if this one isn’t the one you want or the one that helps you live the best version of your life, it is up to you to write another story.

I was trapped and limited by the story I told myself. Everyone does this as a form of protection. We keep ourselves fearful, small and limited by the things we convince ourselves are true. The irony is that we aren’t protecting, but limiting. And those are vastly different things.

Since we are truly the authors of our lives, it is up to each of us to write the next chapter. It is up to each of us keep adding new material – better material – to move our lives forward in a way that matters to us.

I once heard it said that life is not a dress rehearsal – today really matters. With that information, what story are you telling yourself today that limits the true, remarkable and amazing you? What is holding you back from being who you want and need to be, and to be who you were born to be?

Others like to fill in our story lines for us. They tell us who to be, what to do for work, where to go to college, what to drive, where to live and even what to believe. But your life is YOUR story. Don’t try to be someone else or to live their story for them. Be your own author. Write your own content in the way you want it to be. Challenge your fears. Be who you want to be.

If you find yourself not living your true story, grab the pen or the keyboard and write the next chapter, paragraph or even line. Take control. This is your story. I think it will be amazing.

Important Questions from a Coach:

  1. What about your current story limits you?
  2. Who is influencing your current story?
  3. If you had no fear and could write it exactly as you want, what would your story be?

 

Consider reading The Power of Stories

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