What Fills You Up: Finding Your Fit

By Kristin Allaben

Ok, I admit I was a cliché this holiday season. At the encouragement (read: nagging) from both sisters and my mother, I agreed to watch a few Hallmark movies. And in the last month of my pregnancy, followed by having a newborn, turning on one of those feel-good movies when you find yourself up at odd hours in the night was a true God-send (though don’t tell them I enjoyed it).

I recently watched the last Hallmark movie I had left on my DVR, “Coming Home for Christmas,” and was happily surprised to find that in the first 5 minutes, the lead character talks about finding her fit, her passion, the thing in life that “fills her up.”

True to Hallmark’s fashion, the story focused a bit more on the romance than I naively expected based on the set-up, but the message was there: how can you be truly happy when you don’t know what makes you happy?

There is a saying, “the road is paved with good intentions.” I think this applies to many people’s New Year’s resolutions. We set out with the intent to eat better, to be happier, to be more mindful and present to ensure we’re enjoying and appreciating every moment. But, as the first 5 minutes of the Hallmark movie points out, “complacency is an easy trap to fall into when you don’t yet know your thing.”

So commit to “knowing your thing” this year.

How do you start?

Reflect on these questions:

  • What are you passionate about?
  • When you wish time would stand still, what are you doing?
  • What are your three greatest strengths?
  • What really matters to you today?

The answers to these questions can give you increased clarity about yourself, and with that self-awareness, you can more effectively assess where in work and life you can employ these.

See, the more you align yourself in work and life to the places that need what you do and like best, the more engaged, powerful and capable you feel. It fills you up.

So what’s next? Take the free 3AboutMe Talent Assessment to discover your strengths and core abilities. Reflect on your passions and interests. Then, with this information, create your personal branding statement (here’s how). Use this to become clear about who you are, what fits you and how how this can help you stay passionate, fulfilled and happy in life.


Consider reading The Power of Passions

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Small Actions Lead to Sustainable Change

By Jay Forte, Coach, Author, Educator

With the arrival of a new year, many of you have likely committed to make improvements in various aspects of your work and life. Bravo. Every day provides opportunities for continual development and improvement.

Frequently, however, our goals are overly ambitious. Though the end result would be amazing – stopping smoking, exercising more, being kinder, raising your engagement at work, saving more money –  changing habits and actions just take time.

My guidance? Pace yourself. Give yourself smaller, more reasonable goals. With the success of one, add another to make more progress. Over time, you will make great strides that didn’t feel so painful and resulted in meaningful behavioral or attitudinal changes.

Here’s an example.

Many of my clients want to improve their physical health by eating better. Because they want great results, they overcommit to expansive goals, then quickly feel intimidated by their commitment. So consider this approach:

With regard to your physical health and eating, what is one small thing you will start doing combined with one small thing you will stop doing today?

Start doing:

  • Walk instead of taking an elevator.
  • Read the packaging on food products so you become more aware of what you are eating.
  • Add one more vegetable or fruit to your main meal.
  • Serve your meals on smaller plates to limit your portion size.

Stop doing:

  • Stop eating your lunches out; bring them from home instead.
  • Stop the twice-a-day coffee run and bring it down to once a day.
  • Stop having your afternoon soda; replace it with sparkling water.
  • Stop walking through the cookie and cracker aisle when you go through the grocery store to remove temptation.

Small, incremental actions can make meaningful sustainable changes.

I have always found that it is more difficult to simply give up something to get better. Instead, combine things you stop doing with things you now start to do. Make them work together. End something and replace it with something, but make both of them small. They will add up quickly to help you achieve the goals or behaviors you want or need.


Consider reading You Can’t Improve on Something You Don’t Measure

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