Be Impressed With Your World

By Jay Forte, Coach, Author, Educator

Life is full of surprises, but the unfortunate reality is that we often miss them because we don’t pay attention to what happens in the little moments. We get stuck in habit mode and end up doing the same things over and over. No wonder life can seem boring.

When we’re stuck in our habits and playing life on repeat, we can find ourselves getting caught up in our little (and big) dramas.

So how do we get out of this rut? By learning to appreciate the unexpected. It could be…

  • The rainbow that appears after an afternoon rain.
  • The opening in traffic that lets you move ahead of the traffic jam.
  • The smile of a person who holds the door for you as you enter a store.
  • Your favorite flavor of gelato that makes you think of your trip to Rome.
  • The toddler who sits next to you on the plane and wants you to read a story to her.
  • The support of your colleagues who covered for you while you took your sick son to the doctor.
  • Brilliant fall foliage on a tedious business trip.

Tune in. Pay attention. Watch. Be impressed, amazed and astonished by what shows up. Look past the challenges and the disappointments and instead focus on the amazing. It’s always there, waiting for us to see it. By refocusing your perspective to see the opportunities, possibilities and options, you will find there is more right than wrong with you and your world.

You have been taught to find the problem, solve the challenge and focus on what needs repair. As you learned this, you can also learn to focus on the opportunity, the success and the things of high value. You choose what to focus on. One will drive you crazy, the other will make life remarkable.

Important Questions from a Coach:

  1. What impresses you most about your world?
  2. What can you do to see the opportunities and possibilities presented to you?
  3. How can you remind yourself to be continually impressed and surprised by life – both the ups and the downs, the challenges and the opportunities?

If you only listen to others, you will always find reasons to be unhappy, afraid or disappointed with your world. The world after all, seems pretty negative. But, you have a choice. You can choose to focus on what’s wrong or you can choose to tune in and pay attention to what is amazing in this moment, on this great planet, with other amazing people.

I choose the latter.


Consider reading Catch and Release.

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The Greatness in the Small Things

By Jay Forte, Coach, Author, Educator

Remember the song, “My Favorite Things” from The Sound of Music? The things listed in the song were small things, “raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens,” and “doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles.” Small things like these are the gifts we are given daily to make life’s moments greater, happier and richer.

But to appreciate and benefit from life’s moments, you have to stop and notice them.

Wherever you are at this exact moment, what are five small things you notice around you, and how do they add value to your life?

Here is my list:

  • I am at my desk, writing this blog, and out my window is a view of some of south Florida’s great plants, blooming at this exact moment.
  • I have a hand carved Buddha on the corner of my desk that keeps me company each day with a serene and kind face, reminding me to be the same.
  • I have pictures of my kids and grandson, and pictures of my siblings and me when we were kids, reminding me of some of the important people who fill my life with joy and opportunity.
  • I have notes to call clients back, which means I’m fortunate enough to have work to keep me busy.
  • I have a Starbucks cup that still has a little coffee left, which means I get a few more sips of one of my favorite drinks.

These five small things make my life better. But to benefit from them, I have to take the time to notice them, and when I do, they change my outlook. They change me from the inside out; life and work is better.

Isn’t it ironic that the small things don’t demand our attention, but they have so much to share with us? Maybe that is why we can so easily pass right over them. But it’s in the moment we start to notice them when we immediately see our lives become richer, bolder and better. These small things add value to each moment.

So what are the five small things around you? How does each of them help make this moment better? How do these same things keep you more focused and help you stop looking too far ahead, missing what is right in front of you?

Life is punctuated by big events and big things, but daily life is amplified by the small events and small things. In the aggregate, they add up to something amazing. Don’t miss them. All they require is for you to notice them, enjoy them and be better because of them.

Important Questions from a Coach:

  1. How will make time to stop and notice the small things in your life?
  2. How will you celebrate the small things in life?
  3. How will you share what you know about stopping and noticing the small things in life with the people you care most about?

Need help learning to focus on what’s right here, right now? Consider working with a coach to expand your mindfulness to be able to see and enjoy the things that fill each of your moments.


Consider reading Learn to See the Good.

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